Elder versus Younger



Ever thought why , although born from the same mother , siblings are so different from each other?
    I sat upon this question while dealing with a set of mine .And finally I zeroed in upon this conclusion that somewhere we as parents are responsible.
   While the elder one ,according to my observation of many families is somewhat reserved by nature, not so bold as his/her younger counterpart, submissive and takes time to say 'no' to people ,the younger one is outgoing, ready to take risks, a fighter(not to mention that mostly wins the arguments)
and at times overconfident.

Reasons for this difference can be numerous. Lets have a look at some of them which I felt are important .

1.Couples planning to have babies are mostly unprepared. they do so under family pressure.

2.The age of the parents having their first baby is less and so their maturity level is also low.This affects the upbringing of the  child.

3. By the time couples have their second one they are mature enough. They are most unlikely to make the mistakes that they have made while bringing up their first one.

4.They learn by trial and error in their first experience which affects the child.

5. Both the parents lack the level of patience that is required for upbringing a child in their first time. This is achieved by the time the second one is born.

6.There is a desire for perfection among the parents when they first experience the parenthood. They want to give the best to their child. They also desire the best out of him. This leads to a lot of 'don't do this ,don't do that' stuff' which makes the child overcautious. He thinks twice before saying or doing something.

My suggestions:
1. Be fully prepared. Read a lot of books , search the net and  take tips for parenting from the experienced lot.

2. Practice Pranayama and Yoga to make you physically and mentally fit.

3.Don't plan a baby out of family pressure . Do so when you are fully convinced.

4. Plan a normal upbringing for you first one.

5. Stop yourself from overdoing things or over pampering the child. Let him grow in a normal environment.

6. Don't set high expectations from your first child.
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